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 Secrets of MLM Success: What's The Biggest Thing That Will Hold You Back? and How to Beat it!

Fear of rejection!

We all hate it but we have to overcome it if we're going to have any success in this business… unless you go 100% internet.

And now for the good news:

Fear of rejection "can" be beaten!

But that's not our present reality is it?

As soon as we go to pick up the phone or approach a stranger most of us are filled with varying degrees of fear. We know it's illogical… I mean what's the worst thing that could happen? Even if we're going to just silent retreat a stranger and hang up as soon as they answer, we're still filled with fear. Just thinking about calling someone and inviting them to a presentation can sometimes immobilize us. We just can't make the call.

What's going on here?

It's fear of rejection at work and often it's overpowering…it cripples our ability to succeed in this business.

Here's a pretty simplistic explanation of what's happening in your brain and probably not totally scientifically correct… but you'll get the general idea.

Fear of rejection is lodged in an old part of the brain…"the Limbic brain". It stores all of our experiences up to about age seven when we stopped thinking magically and started thinking logically. It sends signals to our emotional centers much faster than our logical brain can respond and say: "hold on… it doesn't make sense to feel silent retreat that". It hates change. You can't re-program the limbic brain by thinking about it, or using visualization or mantras or affirmations. It was there before the frontal cortex fully developed.

The limbic brain only responds to experiential stimuli. What's that mean? It means you can only change its programming through taking action. You can't think it into change.

Here's the only thing I have found that really works: "Face the fear and do it anyway!"

But do it in little doses. Figure out what would be the least scary way for you to find new prospects and start doing that?

Start talking to strangers. That's all… just talk. Turn around and say "Hi" to the person behind you in the line at Starbucks. That's it… just say "Hi"… and then see what happens. Sneak up on the "prospecting strangers" process. Build your courage a little bit silent retreat time. If this is easy for you… no problem! But if you're a little uncomfortable with strangers, then get game toughened by easing into it gradually.

And quietly feel out your family and friends. Don't be impatient and jump all over them until you have your act together. Ask questions and find out over time who has a need and who doesn't.